grow stronger sibling relationships with advice from productivity expert Tonya Dalton

4 Ways to Build Stronger Sibling Relationships

Last week, we talked about the importance of making connections with others, and so one of the reasons that I’ve chosen to go just a little bit deeper into that topic on Episode of 087 of Productivity Paradox this week is because I believe that it is our connection with others that truly builds into our overall happiness… And guess what, the partnerships we have, and that we strive to cultivate in our lives are an extension of that!

While I touch more on those one-on-one partnerships that we often have—say, with our significant others, for example—on the podcast, I thought that I would discuss another partnership that I find to be just as important, especially when it comes to our kids and even ourselves as we continue to age: partnerships among siblings.

As a parent, I know all too well how difficult it can be to get your kids on the same page (and getting along well) with one another day in and day out, but I also know that it’s worth the effort to encourage them to try!

So today, I thought I would talk about a few ways in which you can encourage your kids to cultivate their partnership with each other… and to strengthen their sibling bond as a result. Because, let’s be honest… The relationship that we have with our siblings is a relationship that we have for life, and it’s important that we make it count!

Let’s get started!


How to Build Stronger Sibling Relationships


1. Don’t Compare—

It’s important to remember that growing up in the same household does not necessarily mean that everyone involved had the exact same experience. In this case, and especially when it comes to our siblings, it’s helpful to stay away from comparisons.

Comparing yourself to your sibling, or making comparisons among your children, has consistently been shown to foster jealousy and resentment… two things that definitely have a habit of thwarting any positive sibling relationship.

Instead, we need to learn how to celebrate the differences that we all have as individuals… and encourage our children to do the same.


2. Seek Opportunities for Teamwork—

Just as it is important to cultivate teamwork and positivity in the workplace in order for happiness to flourish, it is equally important to encourage teamwork among siblings.

If you’re a parent looking to help your kids strengthen their relationship, find a fun project for your children to do together, or get them working together on completing a series of chores around the house. Any way that you can get them to set their differences aside and to work together as a team will ultimately encourage them to look to one another for help and guidance in the future.

Looking to strengthen your own sibling bond? Find a fun outing that you and your sibling can do together—and make it happen! This could be as simple as inviting them over to help you with a household project, or even seeking out a fun, challenging recreational activity that you can try together.


3. Learn to Disagree Respectfully—

Let’s be honest, kids (and even adult siblings) get into arguments from time to time. And that’s okay! It’s a completely normal part of life, and we’ve all been there.

The key here is that, no matter what the disagreement is central to, it’s important that we learn to disagree respectfully with our siblings… because respect in and of itself is essential to building good relationships.

Respect can include talking to each other using a nice, calm tone of voice, even and especially when disagreeing; not putting down a sibling’s opinions; and being mindful of someone else’s space and belongings (often a huge one when it comes to kids!)

The more respect we can show our siblings, the better our relationship with them will be in the long-run.


4. Verbalize Appreciation—

I’ve said it before, and I’ll certainly say it again: We all need to hear that we are appreciated from time to time. It’s just a nice thing to hear, no matter what!

In order to cultivate our relationship with our siblings, it’s important that we show them that we appreciate them for who they are first and foremost.

In that light, I want to encourage you to reach out to your siblings more often than you might normally: don’t be afraid to give them a call whenever you’re thinking of them, text more often, or even to organize more get-togethers throughout the year.

When it comes to your kids, encourage them to do the same! Make sure that they make time for each other and that they actively show appreciation for one another early so that they can maintain the habit into adulthood and make space for their relationship to flourish.



What are some ways that you make time for your siblings? I want to hear about them! Share your experiences in the comments below… And check out Episode 087 of Productivity Paradox for more tips on how to cultivate the other partnerships in your life!



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Tonya Dalton
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