Have you ever beat yourself up because you and a friend, family member, or co-worker just weren’t getting along as well as you’d hoped, or because you couldn’t bring yourself to identify with their personality or their interests?
Depending on the situation, it can be super easy to blame ourselves when we experience one of those “off moments” with another person. We fall into this pattern of wondering why we can’t be as outgoing as someone we admire (and wishing that we were), or blaming ourselves for not being as invested in an activity as someone else.
On Episode 114 of Productivity Paradox this week, I’m sitting down with author, speaker, and entrepreneur, Jen Jett, to talk all about the fascinating world of personality tests and how one test in particular (the Enneagram) can help to shed some light on those uneasy feeling when they crop up.
But instead of focusing on reasons that we need to change or why we should strive to change so that we can be better aligned with those around us… I want to take a different approach today to focus on why you DON’T need to change instead.
Because let’s be honest… Life is full of challenges, but it is also full of so much beauty and wonder! And part of what makes our world so amazing is that it is full of people just like you and me with different stories, different interests, and different ways of viewing the world and their place in it.
So today, let’s take a look at some of the ways that you can use your own unique personality to your advantage so that you can stop beating yourself up for the things that are specific to yourself and your nature, and start focusing on what makes you so special to begin with so that you can rise above and live the happy, satisfying life that you deserve.
Ready to jump in?
Perhaps you’ve always hated being the center of attention or talking on the phone, but you never understood why. Or maybe you’ve always needed to look at all of the options in front of you prior to making an important decision.
By learning about your personality type and whether you tend to be more introverted or extroverted, you might be surprised to discover that you’ll have a better understanding of where your likes and dislikes fall as a result… which can have a huge impact when it comes to making decisions that could determine the course of your life (i.e. picking a major; deciding on a career path, or even opting to go for that job promotion).
Choosing activities and making decisions that are better aligned with your likes and your life path will ultimately help you to lead a happier, healthier life, while ensuring you’re making choices that will leave you feeling satisfied with your decision-making and the work you do overall.
Gaining a better understanding of yourself will not only shed some light on why you feel, think, and behave the way that you do… but it can also help you understand why those around you feel, think, and behave the way that they do as well.
By learning about your own personality type, you’ll be able to open the door to understanding all of the other personality types that exist in the world. (And if you’ve caught any part of Episode 114 this week, then you already know that, when it comes to the Enneagram test, there are at least nine types out there to contend with!)
And what happens when we are able to meet others from a level of understanding? We’re able to stop viewing those that fall under other personality types as less-than, and start embracing the differences that exist between us instead.
When we make it a point to greet others from a level of understanding, we open up space for compassion to grow.
While your personality type can also uncover where your likes and dislikes are, tests like the Enneagram can also help you to uncover where your strengths and weaknesses happen to be.
Having a handle on where your strengths lie can help you make important moves when it comes to your career, project planning and execution, and so much more.
And on the flip-side, understanding where your weaknesses might be, you’ll be better able to rise to the occasion to work on those “blind spots” so that you can build your potential as an individual and continue to grow in the future.
Feel drained after spending a day shopping with a big crowd buzzing around you, or after working on a group project for longer than you anticipated?
Understanding your personality type can not only help reveal the activities that tend to zap you of your energy depending on where you fall on the introversion/extroversion line, but it can also help you uncover the activities that can help to restore your energy when you’re feeling sluggish.
By knowing where your energy reserves tend to become compromised and how they can be replenished, you’ll be able to recover more quickly when you’re faced with one of those “down days”.
Having a handle on your personality type can also help you figure out what situations allow you to perform your best.
For example, if you tend to fall on the introverted side of things, then perhaps you’re someone who needs a little bit more focused time on your own when it comes to decision-making. Alternatively, if you tend to be more extroverted, then maybe you thrive when you’re able to talk your decision-making through with a trusted friend, family member, or co-worker!
Knowing what situations work best for your personality type can lend new ideas on how to solve problems, handle stress, cope with (and even resolve) conflict, and manage your work habits.
Have you or someone you know taken the Enneagram test or another personality test before? Share your results and your experiences in the comments below… And head on over to Episode 114 of the podcast to learn even more about the importance of the Enneagram: what it can reveal about yourself and those around you, and how you can use your results to your advantage at home and at work!